Sex and Relationships

He's married but I can't get him off my mind

I was wondering if I could get a man's opinion on a love problem. I met a guy a year ago through a professional reason. I thought about him all year and wrote to him to tell him I liked him.

He agreed to meet me. When we met he told me he was married and that he was declining my offer. He said that if he wasn't married, it might have been different.

I can't but help feel humiliated and disappointed that he would do this to me. I know that he wouldn't hurt me deliberately because he is not that sort of person. I just can't understand why he had to arrange for us to meet on two occasions to tell me this and why he couldn't have just ignored me or wrote?

My pals actually think that he was tempted to start an affair but backed down. I feel I can't forget him and just want to be with him. I feel that I will never see him again! What do you guys think? I hope you will reply soon!

What's the problem? He met with you and told you he was married. It seems to us like he did the decent thing and tried to let you down gently.

He has no responsibility towards you or your feelings yet you are behaving as if he has.

The simple fact of the matter is that you built up a relationship with him in your head, and now feel like he's let you down. But the responsibility is all yours.

He's married, so get over it and move on.