Sex and Relationships

I want to be more than friends

I have a friend and we have become quite close over the last couple of months. We had a chat about relationships and he said that because he was leaving the country to return home in two years he didn't want to get involved and then have to say goodbye.

Anyway things happened and we ended up sleeping together a few times, but I said we should stop because I didn't want to get hurt and felt like I could get more involved. Our friendship has always been really full on - we chat everyday, he comes over late and we spend most of our free time together. He also calls me regularly.

He has been out the country this summer and a couple of days ago he asked me to come and visit him - he would pay. I said I felt a bit awkward - did he expect anything from me - etc? But no he just wants to see me as a mate.

The trouble is I can't control my feelings quite so well and now I know I am starting to fall for him. I don't want to make this a big deal but am struggling to be this close to him. I've decided I am going to visit him and tell him how I feel. Is this the right thing to do?

The truth is that he will probably want to sleep with you - but only on his terms.

His big problem will be the words commitment and relationships. When he says he doesn't expect anything, what he means is that he doesn't expect, or more likely want, commitment and relationships.

What you have to understand is that men think they can sleep with someone and still be friends. This is in the same way they can kick lumps out of someone while playing football and then get roaring drunk together afterwards.

What men haven't discovered is that there is a difference between football and sex.