Sex and Relationships

Should I get together with a work colleague?

I've become very close friends with a man I work with, who happens to be in a 4-year relationship and has a joint mortgage with his girlfriend. Whilst nothing has happened between us, we do have a very strong friendship and I get on a lot better with him than I do with any of my previous boyfriends. We just connect, we laugh and confide in each other so well that I really feel a strong bond with him. He'ss even taken me to see his parents in another part of the county.

The problem comes with the fact that I often think there could be more between us. My girlfriends have all advised me to back off as he has kept our relationship secret from his partner, which obviously means he feels the same way.

So, do I do as my friends suggest and back off and lose someone I'm really close to, or shall I carry on and risk something happening?

Well there are two reasons why he could have kept the relationship secret from his partner.

The first is that she will turn into a mad, crazy, jealous bitch if he so much as talks to another woman. The second is that she will turn into a mad crazy jealous bitch when she finds out that he wants to have an affair with you.

What you have to find out is which is it and, if it is the latter, then you have to decide whether you want to pursue the matter.

The main question you have to answer is whether you want to have a relationship with someone who gives the impression of being a happily married man?