Sex and Relationships

Why is he using chatlines?

I am a 26-year old woman who has recently proposed to her now fiance. Two weeks after I proposed I find out that for the whole of our two and a half year relationship he has been using chatlines. He has also been ringing and speaking to women on their home numbers and mobiles, asking to meet up. We have talked, discussed, cried and argued ever since. He said the chatting and talking dirty was just a bit of fun as he is bored and lonely in the week. He works away (hes a squaddie) but we see each other every weekend. I can't stop thinking something more may have gone on and that he has actually met up with other women and taken it further.

I want to believe everything he has told me but I can't help feeling lied to and hurt, upset and angry. I have lost my confidence and feel unattractive. Please help me understand from a mans point of view.

If your fiancée needs to talk dirty to somebody on the phone why can't he call you during the week? I don't understand why he feels the need to pay 1.50 a minute to talk dirty to someone he has no feelings for. It's not as if you don't see each other for weeks, so the excuse that he's lonely doesn't wash.

If I were you I'd get rid of him. If he's been meeting other women, then I think you can be sure he has taken things further.