Sex and Relationships

How should I approach my first date in 20 years?

Hi ladies, I'm 52 years young, been divorced and living alone for some 8 years.

Went through a very bad patch at time of divorce, what is known as a nervous breakdown and was out of work because of this for almost 3 years.

Slowly but surely getting my life back together but have a meagre income and a council flat that's not as spick and span as it could be.

To the point. Have been in contact with a young lady I noticed on supadates and we've been in regular contact via supadates for some 10 days. Can't believe I did it, but, booked 2 tickets for a local show, then asked if her pet dog would give her permission to accompany me.

Any advice on what I should and should not do?

Good to hear you have got your life back on track and are prepared to put yourself back out their despite your past difficulties. Well done you!

Dating hasn't changed that much over the last 20 years, except that women are probably a bit more forward and are more likely to speak their mind and make the first move if they are interested.

Dating tips:

* Dress appropriately for the date. Wash and iron your clothes. Please no slogan t-shirts such as 'I heart beer' your date won't be very impressed. Theyre not cute, nor clever.

* Have a shower, clean your fingernails, get a haircut and have a shave. Most importantly clean your teeth. No woman likes smelly breath. If you are going out for dinner take some mints to freshen up after the meal.

* Be a gent. Open doors for her and compliment her on her hair and what she's wearing. Try not to leer or stare. Try not to swear and drink too much.

* Some women expect you to pay for everything, some are happy to split the cost. Whatever the situation make sure you have enough money to cover both situations. Dont quibble about the bill with your date. If she offers to buy you a drink accept gracefully.

* Dont talk about yourself all night and try to make eye contact when talking to her. Don't fidget and get stressed out if there are a few lapses or awkward silences in the conversation. This is only natural as you are still getting to know each other.

* At the end of the date offer to order her a taxi or drive her home. If she gets a cab insist she calls/texts you to let you know she got back safely - this show that you care.

* Dont presume that she will kiss you, if she is really interested and wants to, she will let you know. When ending the evening, dont shake her hand because that is too impersonal. A continental style kiss on either cheek is acceptable.

Above all smile and enjoy yourself. When a person smiles they exude confidence. Confident people are sexy, fun people.