Sex and Relationships

I never seem to pull...

Now I don't know if I have a problem really, but this is bugging me.

When the weekend has landed and I get myself dressed ready to go out, I say to myself, "have a good time tonight, don't bother about the nice women, they are nice but you're out with mates."

Now the reason I say this is because I never seem to pull. ever!
I'm not bad looking, I wear nice clothes, shirt, trousers etc. and I don't get overly drunk, but when ever I try and get talking to a good looking lady they just tell me where to get off. Then that spoils the night.

It wouldn't matter the odd once but it's all the time.

Do you think you could give me a few tips on how you two like being approached and stuff like that, perhaps suggest where I'm going wrong?

Any help would be great.

I know what you've been doing! You've been doing the old reverse psychology vibe on yourself making yourself believe you don't want to pull when you really do, so to deflect the disappointment when you don't. Damage limitation - we've all been there and done it at some point to protect our fragile little egos.

But the downside with this is you might try and convince yourself that you aren't REALLY interested in pulling, when your body language and your whole approach to the fairer sex gives you away quicker than if you strapped a neon sign to your head saying "Horny male - come get some!".

The secret is to make the woman think she's in control and make it seem as if she's pulled you. No girl likes a desperate male, especially one who prowls the club/pub trying to pull anything that is prepared to talk to him. Why do you think lots of women go out on girlie nights out to gay bars? Because they don't want to be harassed by slimy men with crap chat up lines.

Ok admittedly you said that is not exactly your approach and you do make an effort when you go out, but you still don't understand where you are going wrong.

Ok the secret to pulling a woman is confidence. Look confident, look as if you are having a great time with your mates and smile loads. Now when you do see someone you fancy make a conscious effort to look their way - try and make eye contact and remember if you do get a reaction, smile and hold their gaze.

Now here comes the crucial part - the body language tell tale signs. You know if you're in if she flirts back by either playing with her hair, smoothing her clothes, touching her neck and face and basically giving off lots of good vibes in your direction. Then and only then do you make your move.

When you do make your move remember think CONFIDENCE, Look her in the eye, introduce yourself and offer a compliment or buy her a drink etc. Never make it obvious you are checking her out, and please resist the urge to stare at her breasts (no matter how much you are impressed by them).

If you follow some of these rules I'm sure you will see a turnaround in no time at all. So get in there son!