Sex and Relationships

I still love my ex - what should I do?

My girlfriend's ex told me that just a few days before I came up to sstay withher, he'd slept with her. I was shocked and stunned she told me that it was true. But I forgave her, then her ex told me that she has just slept with this guy who she barely know. Again I don't believe him, but I ring her up and she tells me its all a lie. A few weeks later I ended up asking her to marry me and she said yes. Later I confronted her about that man again and I found out that she had indeed slept with him. She said she hadn't told me because she didn't want to hurt me but she felt that she needed that time between relationships to get herself together, so I forgave her once again.

I gave up everything, my job, my college, my friend and my family just to be with her.

Then the arguments started. The problem we had was that because neither of us had a job so we were always together and it caused friction. I suppose in retrospect I didn't treat her right and I was lazy. She had her own problems as well she was very controlling and she had a temper like a volcano.

A couple of weeks after that she said she wasn't ready for a relationship and she asked me to leave. So I had to come crawling back to my parents. I recently found out that she had asked her ex if they could get back together.

I still love her so much and I really want her to be happy.

Part of me wants her back so badly, another hates her and feels used and another just wants to be her friend and help her make the right decision, but whatever I do she ends up taking offence.

What should I do?

It sounds like she isn't sure of what she wants, and is clearly still emotionally involved with her ex.

You have already given up your job and life for her once and it didn't work out. My advice is that you put this relationship behind you and move on. If you don't you'll only end up going round in circles.

Focus on getting your own life back on track and when the times comes you'll meet someone who'll want to be with just you.

Good Luck!