Sex and Relationships

I've just started seeing a former lover again

I've just started seeing a former lover again after 3 months of being apart (after we split it was too painful to see each other), however now I'm seeing her only as a mate.

The problem is I still have a massive crush on her and it hurts to see her in a non romantic way. How do I let her know this and get a definitive answer from her without jeopardising friendship with a great girl.

Ouch! This is the kind of situation which can get really complicated and really hurtful if not handled carefully. You said that you are only now mates again after a 3 month period of not seeing or talking to each other, because you said it was too painful after the initial break-up.

Now I don't know the details but it sounds like this girl has broken your heart once before and you are now thinking of going to try and win her back?

Tread very carefully! Try to remember the reasons she gave you for splitting up the first time around. Do you think the reasons she gave you were credible? Can you trust your heart with this woman?

When you've previously been in an intense relationship it's often hard to turn off your emotions and feelings like a tap. Think about it, 3 months isn't really a long time to get over someone is it?

Many couples have got back together on a whim after the shock of seeing a previous ex again just to find out that the person and their feelings/habits haven't changed for the better. I call this yo-yo dating because you never know where you stand as one minute you're together and the next it's all over again.

Talk to this girl - the only way you'll find out if the feelings are mutual is to talk to her.