"Falling out of love is chiefly a matter of forgetting how charming someone is."
"Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage."Iris Murdoch on Lao Tzu
"Keep love in your heart. A life without it is like a sunless garden when the flowers are dead."Iris Murdoch on Oscar Wilde
"Friends can help each other. A true friend is someone who lets you have total freedom to be yourself - and especially to feel. Or, not feel. Whatever you happen to be feeling at the moment is fine with them. That's what real love amounts to - letting a person be what he really is."Iris Murdoch on Jim Morrison
"Sometimes the heart sees what is invisible to the eye."Iris Murdoch on H. Jackson Brown, Jr.
"Love is like a friendship caught on fire. In the beginning a flame, very pretty, often hot and fierce, but still only light and flickering. As love grows older, our hearts mature and our love becomes as coals, deep-burning and unquenchable."Iris Murdoch on Bruce Lee
"The cry of equality pulls everyone down."
"We shall be better prepared for the future if we see how terrible, how doomed the present is."
"Happiness is a matter of one's most ordinary and everyday mode of consciousness being busy and lively and unconcerned with self."
"We can only learn to love by loving."
"In almost every marriage there is a selfish and an unselfish partner. A pattern is set up and soon becomes inflexible, of one person always making the demands and one person always giving way."