"In almost every marriage there is a selfish and an unselfish partner. A pattern is set up and soon becomes inflexible, of one person always making the demands and one person always giving way."
"A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person."Iris Murdoch on Mignon McLaughlin
"By all means, marry. If you get a good wife, you'll become happy if you get a bad one, you'll become a philosopher."Iris Murdoch on Socrates
"It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages."Iris Murdoch on Friedrich Nietzsche
"How can a woman be expected to be happy with a man who insists on treating her as if she were a perfectly normal human being."Iris Murdoch on Oscar Wilde
"Don't marry the person you think you can live with marry only the individual you think you can't live without."Iris Murdoch on James C. Dobson
"The cry of equality pulls everyone down."
"We shall be better prepared for the future if we see how terrible, how doomed the present is."
"Happiness is a matter of one's most ordinary and everyday mode of consciousness being busy and lively and unconcerned with self."
"We can only learn to love by loving."
"Falling out of love is chiefly a matter of forgetting how charming someone is."