8 Signs About Relationships That You Need to Know
There are various signs that have been used to determine whether a relationship may last long or not, but some of the signs do not seem to be true.
13:16 02 April 2019
Being in a relationship that you feel genuine love exists is what that matters the most. But, how will you know that relationship will last? Although connections may differ from couples to couples if some long term signs do not exist in your relationship, it doesn't mean that your relationship will be a failure.
Below are signs that you may consider in determining the nature of your current relationship. It includes:
Thinking about each other when you are not together
Research shows that when partners think about each other when they are apart, their love becomes stronger for each other. In research conducted by the Stony Brook University students in 2007, they found out that there are specific characteristics of a relationship that are linked directly with the feeling of love.
Moreover, they further found out that if you have difficulty concentrating on what you are doing while thinking about him/her, it is because of the intense feeling of love that develops each day.
Positive response on each other's news
The way you respond to your partner's good news matters a lot. A psychologist connects positive response as the twin flame of a happy relationship. Stan Millhouse from Psychic 2 Tarot explains that the concept of a twin flame is very similar to that of a soulmate, but it doesn't have to be a romantic connection and many twin flames share vibrant, platonic relationships.
For instance, there are different ways in which a partner can respond to the other after being told about a promotion at work. It may include:
- "That is great honey! You deserve it. You have been working so hard for it". That is an active, constructive response which means its an enthusiastic support of your partner.
- "That is good news" is a passive constructive response which means its an understated support done with a warm smile.
- "Are you sure you will be able to manage working longer hours now?" It is an active, destructive response which means it demeaned the response.
- "Oh really? Well, guess what happened on my drive home. " Is a passive destructive response that means you have ignored the good news.
The best response to a successful relationship is an active, constructive response; thus you should apply or see if it exists in yours.
Trusting one another
Even though love may be the most significant factor in a relationship, without trust, then you have nothing in common. You need to trust your partner no matter the situation you are in, which are supported by empathy and respect. Every relationship is built on trust and believing that your partner will understand or do it right for you is the key to any healthy relationship. Solving a misunderstanding will be easier if trust exists in a relationship, and you will be sure to work it out what most couples expect
Spending some time apart with friends
In the past decades, relationships were for love and companionship. Recently, we have placed even more demands on our spouses, including protectors, financial partners, companions, and for our fulfillment, which does not have to be the only perspective of a relationship. You may also want to use all the other resources available to you for a successful relationship like the use of friends as you must invest more psychological resources and more time into the relationship.
You try new things together
Doing the same things every day in a relationship may bring out boredom, but trying new things strengthens the bond. For instance, researchers took more than 50 middle aged couples and assigned them to different groups. A group was assigned to do a new activity of singing and dancing, which was to be done in 90 minutes a week.
Another group, same time ration, were to do a routine activity like going to the movies together. The last group was not assigned any new action. After ten weeks, they found out that those couples who tried new things were more satisfied in a relationship which is why it is an essential sign to a successful relationship.
Having the same sense of humor
Humor is the act of being comic or providing amusement. Being in a healthy relationship means that you will always find a way to stay connected which is only possible through the sense of humor. Moreover, communicating through private language that only the two of you understands predicts the satisfaction in a relationship. Say for instance, having jokes and statements that are so unique it facilitates strong bonding.
More so, sharing house chores are essential in a relationship or marriage. Sharing chores bring out more understanding and gives you time to share new thoughts or ideas, creating a strong correlation between the couples. And as much as men people believe that men are doing more house chores compared to the past years, women still do most of the slack thus helping each other should not be a problem in a relationship.
No extreme downturns in your relationship
From research conducted on over 400 dating couples there came up different patterns of commitment. As the relationship and psychologist expert explains:
- Most dramatic couples showed lots of fluctuation committing to their partners with time.
- Socially involved couples experience variation once a third party contributes against their relationship.
- Partner-focused couples look at their partners positively, and fluctuations only come in when the time they spend together reduces.
- Conflict-ridden couples also tend to fight a lot; thus a lot of mini changes in their commitment level.
From the above description, there is a greater chance for partner focused couples to get their relationship to the next level, but the degree of dramatic couples breaking up becomes so high.
Solving fights together
No relationship does not have fights which is why a successful relationship should be able to repair their bond after fights before it's too late. That is a shared trait and to achieve it there needs to be communication and understanding.
The way you approach fights in your relationship determines the success of your relationship. For a successful reunion, communication is essential in that when one is upset, you have to listen so that you may repair the situation.
There are many signs of a healthy relationship, but the above list provides the best guidelines. So if you are planning to have a long lasting relationship, try to bring your partner close to your heart do not push them away through your actions which is the summary of the above article.