14:32 11 November 2010
We all know that break ups are hard and most of the time they are quite necessary, but how do we do the dumping tactfully and let them down gently?
Check out our failsafe rules for break-up etiquette that will ensure you never have to utter the dreaded phrase its not you, its me again.
Are you sure?
Make up your mind. Make sure you 100 per cent want to do this and that you know theres no going back. So many women break up with partners, go and celebrate their new found freedom, only to be back together with said partner days later.
If you do plan to live out this particular scenario, just leave your friends and family out of it or youll end up being that couple who break up and get back together on a weekly basis. Annoying.
Have a heart
Dont just ignore the guy and hope hell get the message. Let him know by speaking to him face to face; or at least ring him. Texting is a no-no too, just pluck up the courage to tell him yourself- you owe him that.
Clarity is key
Be clear. Dont use phrases like I need some space when you are ending a relationship. Thats fine when you actually want some space but not when you want to break up with someone. Dont make the mistake of thinking that youre letting them down gently - this will actually give them hope that theres a chance you might get back together. Be blunt and to the point, which will be kinder in the long run.
Dont be a cow
Take responsibility. Dont try to force him to break up with you by being bitchy and unreasonable. Women who are unhappy in their relationships sometimes start inventing jealousies and complaints to try and push their boyfriends away. This is the cowards way out and creates bad feelings between you both.
Where? What? When? How?
Think very carefully about staging your break up. Consider location; is a public place wise? If theres a chance he may cry, scream or shout, you probably want to avoid a busy restaurant. It will just make things worse and will be embarrassing for both of you.
Also try not to look too amazing. Hell feel bad enough already without you rubbing your amazing-ness in his face.
Dont cry for me...
...no, actually try and shed a few. Try your best to muster up a few tears if you can as youre telling him the bad news. His ego needs all the help it can get.
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