How to Propose
Asking for one's hand can be one of the most exciting and exciting moments in life.
23:04 12 June 2020
It is quite natural that you are very worried about such a situation, trying to organize everything perfectly to the smallest detail. However, there is no universal ideal way to propose. Better focus on arranging this event so that it matches the personality of your boyfriend/girlfriend. After that, practice your speech and calm your nerves to truly enjoy the moment!
Think about your boyfriend/girlfriend during each planning step.
Your proposal should be perfectly tailored to your boyfriend/girlfriend. Instead of trying to copy or beat what other couples do, ask yourself the following question throughout the planning process, “Will they like it?”
For example, if you know that a boyfriend/girlfriend hates to be in the spotlight, do not ask for the hand of your loved one on the big screen at a sports event. On the other hand, if you know that a person will be delighted that 50,000 people will see them say yes, feel free to choose this option!
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Consider their culture and family traditions when planning the process.
Keep in mind that the traditions of marriage proposals vary greatly throughout the world, it is especially important to consider this if your boyfriend/girlfriend is of a different origin or from a different stratum of society than you. Be prepared and make sure that your proposal respects the traditions of the loved one, and also meets all the requirements that you may have.
For example, an engagement ring is not a universal symbol. It is also not necessary to stand on one knee. If possible, talk with your loved one’s family members for advice on how best to asking for one's hand. Even if you do not need to first obtain their consent, they will appreciate information about your plans.
Stick to traditions if they honor them.
If traditions are important to them, make them a priority when planning to ask for their hand. For example, perhaps you should first talk to the girl’s parents, buy a diamond ring, take your loved one to a trendy restaurant, stand on one knee and directly ask, “Will you marry me?” If you are not sure if your loved one expects a traditional proposal, pay attention to how they react to such actions involving friends or even celebrities. You might even ask, “What do you think of this proposal?”
Make a modern proposal if this option is more suitable for your loved one.
Not everyone dreams of a “fabulous” proposal that meets all the traditions of their culture. Use your in-depth knowledge of your loved one’s opinions and preferences when planning. Remember that your goal is to make the perfect proposal just for this person! For example, if they have moral or economic objections to diamond rings, you can choose a more standard type of ring for one of you or for both, or not use the ring at all.
If you know that this suits your loved one, there is nothing wrong with making a marriage proposal in the form of a regular conversation, during which you can discuss the pros and cons of this important step. You might even want to combine this more modern approach with the more traditional proposal after you agree to get married. Many cultures in the world still have strong foundations that in heterosexual relationships a man should ask for the hand of a woman. However, keep in mind that the marriage proposal should be done in a way that suits both of you more.
If you want, get help in organizing and celebrating the event.
If you want your proposal to be captured by professionals for all descendants, hire a photographer or cameraman to cover this event (alternatively, rely on a friend or family member with good camera control skills). However, most likely, it is better to do this only if you are sure that you will be answered yes. If you can’t think of the right way to make a proposal, hire a wedding planner to help you plan the process. However, even in this case, make sure that the proposal is ideally tailored to the loved one.