Making the leap from online flirting to offline relationships
Online dating is getting more and more popular every day.
15:35 11 June 2018
People are meeting, communicating and building their relationships online but sooner or later everyone will come to the point when they decide that it’s time to transfer their relationships away from a dating site. One thing that can be said about any reputable and popular dating site is it will give you access to a diverse pool of eligible talent. You can send messages to any number of potential partners and begin cultivating online relationships from the convenience of your keyboard, flirting with as many like-minded individuals as you like. So far so good. But let’s be honest about the reasons most people choose online dating. Ultimately they want an offline partner. In fact, people are searching for local singles; someone they can meet in the flesh and enjoy actual dates with as opposed to virtual ones.
Making the first move
The trouble is making the transition from an online to an offline connection is not always that straightforward. One of the main reasons for this is while websites have introduced a degree of equality to the world of matchmaking, there are certain aspects of dating etiquette that remain entrenched in the past. Most women will still expect their male suitors to be making the first move.
Guys have to accept they might have a fantastic profile photograph and a list of personal qualities and leisure pursuits that make them irresistible, but they will still have to be assertive when seeking to make the offline transition. If you sit back and wait on a female making a date suggestion you could be in for a long wait.
What to chat about
The conversations you have online should always be two-way. They are not about uncovering someone who is destined to be your lifelong soulmate or swapping meaningful life experiences. They are simply about forging a bond; discovering if you instinctively sense any chemistry between you. While this connection should be based on mutual attraction, it should also encompass something much deeper: trust. When you take your relationship offline you will be swapping the role of relative strangers for something far more fulfilling and potentially long-lasting. It’s important to have conveyed a three-dimensional picture of your qualities. Agreeing to hook-up in the flesh is a big step to take, one a woman will only be ready to take once she can be sure your intentions are honorable.
Build that attraction
If a girl responds well to your online conversation and banter, in choosing to touch base with yourself over potentially scores of others she is obviously signaling she is attracted to you. You need to build on this sense of attraction by proving there is a lot more to you than just an eye-catching photograph. Give her the impression you have an interesting personality to complement the image. Dazzle her with the wit of your messages and keep her consistently amused with your stories and effortless flirting. If you can stoke the impression of a fascinating, multi-layered character she will be keen to experience you in the flesh; metaphorically and perhaps literally.
Much as you can make firm connections via your PC’s web browser or smartphone, in meeting offline you are still asking a lot of any female. The bottom line is you are still a stranger to her, and lurking at the back of her mind will be the question of whether you are 100% who you claim to be in your charismatic messages.
It’s up to you to reassure your potential partner you are a genuine guy. But you need to do this throughout your online conversations. Were you to suddenly offer to pick her up in your car, don’t be surprised if this conjures images that are more stalker than potential lover! Suggest meeting somewhere public for your first date, such as a restaurant or popular wine bar.